(excerpt from "Adoption for Dummies")
by Tracey Barr and Katrina Carlisle, BSW, LSW
"The phrases that people commonly used in the past (and that less informed people still use today) to describe or defie adoption have negative connotations. How would you feel, for example, if someone asked, "Why didn't your real mom want you?" The language in this question implies that 1) the mother you have isn't the one you really belong to and 2) that you weren't placed for adoption because your birthmother wasn't prepared to be a parent; you were placed for adoption because she didn't want you.
So in comes PAL, which stands for Positive Adoption Language. This is the language you'll hear when you talk with adoption professionals, and it's the language you should use when you speak about adoption."
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